As I speak to numerous men and women who have been through a divorce, a shared experience that they have all had jumps out at me. Each and every one of them, whether they were the ones who initiated the divorce or the ones who were left behind, has gone through a period of deep, numbing and all-engulfing pain. For some, the periods were shorter, but the soul-crushing, intolerable and insufferable pain was there. Indisputably and unquestionably.
When divorce is, in most cases, a way out of unhappiness and potentially a start over, why is it so debilitating?
There is no doubt that recovering from a divorce is difficult, painful and sometimes even lonely. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Here is the advice from individuals who have been through it all and emerged stronger and kinder.
Divorce is painful, especially when kids are involved. But always remember if you find yourself in a dark place, you may feel you are buried. But it could very well be that you are planted. So bloom… You owe that to yourself.